Pay attention around you. Doubt the things you think are normal, what you don’t tell anyone. Abuse has many faces, some of them “quite charming”.
Edgar Allan Poe had a beloved pet cat named Catterina. The affectionate feline would climb up and roost on Poe’s shoulders while he wrote. She would remain there, observed a visitor, “purring as if in complacent approval of the work proceeding under [her] supervision.”